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Monday, November 28, 2005

In response to Phlebas...

I was going to write this as a comment on her blog but then it got too long.

In response to http://lucid-nonsense.blogdrive.com/, I suspect I definitely have no principles where that is concerned.

I think if the guys in question did all that they did in a condescending manner I would be insulted rather than impressed. But because I really couldn't have managed carrying that home on my own...or rather would have managed but with great difficulty, I'm perfectly willing to let guys carry things for me to save me the work.

To be fair let me also mention that I'm equally impressed if a girl does that for me but to date no girl ever has offered to help me out when I'm bogged down with something and need help. What does that say about our society then? That the guys only do it because there is some subconcious sexual attraction even if it is not overt? Or that the guys are the only ones that have been socially conditioned to help?

I say subconciously because trust me, I know when a guy is simply doing something in order to attempt to impress me and that earns negative points with me.

I also admit that "doing all the little things" does not equate to being a nice guy and I never intended it to. I am currently caught between a dichotomy of opposites where my friends back home complain that guys are just incredibly dense and fail to remember birthdays, help carry things even when the girl in question is obviously struggling, and all the other little social niceties one would expect from anyone, and my friends here complain that guys here (who do do all that for the most part) are all egocentric jerks.

I have a number of guy friends who are thoughtful, sweet, considerate and genuinely nice, and yes they do treat me as equals. For some reason, there are never enough of them to go round.

Then of course we get to the "nice guy"'s complaint: "How come girls are only attracted to Jerks?" To which my response would be too long to post :-)

Sunday, November 27, 2005

A Few Good Men...

For some reason I have a knack of finding guys who are absurdly nice. What brought on this comment? V just walked me home, carrying two bags of groceries for me the whole way. This was a 40 min walk from Chinatown, and 15 min of that walk was out of his way since he lives closer there than I do.

Yesterday, Lady Red noticed a guy in passing who crossed over to the passenger side of the car, openned the door for his gf, before going back to the other side to get in the car, saying that such guys were rare. It got me thinking that I actually do know guys who do that, and not just one but a large portion of the guys I know would actually do that.

So while the other three girls in my college posse are complaining about all guys being egocentric jerks or "incredibly dense male" type, I've never had a problem finding nice guys who do all the little things. The question then becomes, is part of that because Asian guys are more likely to be sensitive and gentlemenly?

Judging from the complaints of Singaporean women everywhere and the typical Singaporean "So you want to get a HDB flat?" proposal, I wouldn't normally think so. Perhaps then, that it is a subset of Asian men that have that quality, and if so then is there some reason I meet all of them?

If I could isolate and market that reason, I'd be a very rich girl with lots of grateful thank you letters. As it is, I'm left wondering why I am the one who meets all of these guys, when I can't date any of them and the single friends I have only seem to meet the egocentric jerk type.

Saturday, November 19, 2005

The reason why I work so much

is that at least work is clean simple and satisfying.

I just hung up on Lady J, who was whining and wanted to stay close to home. I hate it when people make me organize something saying sure why don't you call person A B and C and set up lunch or dinner and then complain and want me to change things when its done.

If you are so damn fussy, you can set everything up and do the calling yourself.

I have a good mind to just ignore everyone else and have this one day to myself.

Friday, November 18, 2005

I may not have blogged in a very very long time but this time I have an excuse. All I'd have to do is tell you my leave work times for the week and you'd understand why. For this week it was 10pm, 8pm, 11pm, 12am.. so far. Let's just say it has been a rather intensive week.

Bunches of things however have occured since I last blogged.

For one thing, I can now say I've been to the west coast. Palm springs itself was beautiful in a very resort kind of way that I'd have to admit, could have been a resort anywhere. However, the things the company arranged however, were amazing. The food was good. The dinner themes were elaborate and unique. The first night we got clowns and circus performers and stuff, the second night, we got a fake casino, and the last night we got fireworks. All in all, I had a great time. I also got to ride in a hot air balloon for the first time.

LA though was very different from any other city I've been in. It's large and sprawling and seems to go on with no end. Not a good place for someone who doesn't drive to live.

And.. being that I'm supposed to be back at work in a bit. I shall stop my blogging quest for today :-p